Jamie K. Beck has worked in the behavioral health field since 1996. Starting as a Childcare Specialist and Therapeutic Teacher she honed her skills working with adults as an Individual and Group Psychotherapist, Partial Hospitalization Program Coordinator, and Clinical Supervisor.
Jamie is a graduate of Rhode Island School of Design and has a Masters in Expressive Arts and Mental Health Counseling from Lesley University. She has training and experience in a variety of treatment modalities including Expressive Arts Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Stress-Reduction for Teens, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, Dialectic Behavioral Therapy, Insight Meditation, and Collaborative Problem Solving.
Jamie's current clinical work is focused on helping people who struggle with the following:
Loss during pregnancy or after birth
Transitions in midlife
Living with chronic medical conditions
Divorce or the death of a loved one
Transitions in teen years and young adulthood
Parenting with compassion
Finding the joy in life regardless of circumstance
My daughter has command over her own thoughts, her own feelings, her own intentions but that's about it. She cannot predict or prevent the behavior of others and she has no control over nature.
This is less scary than you may think because my daughter, like you, has a superpower in her well-being arsenal that makes 'the unknown future' just another interesting idea.
The truth is that no matter what happens to her or to the people and the planet she loves, my daughter can learn that she sets the tone for her experience and she lays the ground for her action.
Think about this:
When you trip over something and fall to the ground, what do you do next?
Does your face heat up? Do you call yourself clumsy (or even worse)? Do you blame someone else? Do you feign an injury and wait until someone shows up to help you? Do you laugh out loud?
Most people feel shame when they trip or fall, as if they made a deliberate choice to stumble and hit the ground. Obviously that makes no sense. Walking is a skill that took a lot of time and repetition to master. And walking, like any physical endeavor, requires muscle strength and balance to maintain. Therefore, the first question is, why in the world aren't we tripping and falling down more often? The second question: If we all trip and fall, how did it get such a bad rap?
I want to challenge the notion of shame, especially when it comes to natural human interactions and activities. Just imagine what would happen if I worked with my child on shifting her thoughts about this tripping and falling issue:
If she starts to believe that falling down is not a shameful act but a perfectly natural occurrence due to lack of balance or strength when walking, then she may not feel badly about herself when she inevitably stumbles. And if she does not feel embarrassed upon falling, she may be less fearful of failure. And if she is less fearful of failing, she may feel motivated to try something new. In the end, if she has less discomfort and more curiosity about the unknown, there is absolutely nothing outside of her own mind that will determine her success and her joy.
There is no end to what you can accomplish when you pay attention to how your mind is working, especially when uncomfortable. Happiness is a skill. So is resilience.
That superpower? It's yours to employ whenever you're ready.
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